Sternberg’s Love Theory
The triangular theory of love is a theory of love developed by psychologist Robert Sternberg. In the context of interpersonal relationships, ‘the three components of love, according to the triangular theory, are an intimacy component, a passion component, and a decision/commitment component’.
Intimacy – Which encompasses feelings of attachment, closeness, connectedness, and bondedness.
Passion – Which encompasses drives connected to both limerence and sexual attraction.
Commitment – Which encompasses, in the short term, the decision to remain with another, and in the long term, the shared achievements and plans made with that other.
(via lacigreen & psychology2010)
It’s nice to be in love. It’s also nice to realize that you can love people in real and significant ways without being in love. That realization has added a beautiful dimension to my life.
Make sure you marry someone who laughs at the same things you do.
(via ytsud & beaswellgirl)
Call me a curmudgeon, but I really think that public, highly-orchestrated, excessive, “quirky,” viral-video-hopeful wedding proposals are the worst. Way to laden a life-changing decision with unfair pressure and the input of totally unrelated parties! And screw that overused Bruno Mars song. You can be creative without going over the top, and proposing discreetly in a special public place can enhance a nice memory, but only if you’re sure your partner will say yes!
(Also, I’m glad that more people are doing their wallets and karma a favor by rethinking the conventional diamond engagement ring.)
Queen - You're My Best Friend (A Night at the Opera)
“You’re My Best Friend”—Queen
Freddie speaking of Mary:
“Our love affair ended in tears but a deep bond grew out of it, and that’s something nobody can take away from us. It’s unreachable … All my lovers ask me why they can’t replace her, but it’s simply impossible. I don’t feel jealous of her lovers because, of course, she has a life to lead, and so do I. Basically, I try to make sure she’s happy with whoever she’s with and she tries to do the same for me. We look after each other and that’s a wonderful form of love. I might have all the problems in the world, but I have Mary and that gets me through.” (1985)
Mary speaking of Freddie:
“I lost somebody who I thought was my eternal love … When he died I felt we’d had a marriage. We’d lived our vows. We’d done it for better for worse, for richer for poorer, in sickness and in health. You could never have let go of Freddie unless he died—and even then it was difficult. ” (2000)